Listen more

Most of us like to talk and some of us like to talk a lot! Talking is a way in which we convey our feelings, thoughts and opinions. It’s also a way we disguise what we’re feeling and a way we hide our anxiety and fear.  And, as much as we like to talk, what we are really looking for in all that talking is a connection with another human being. But a conversation in which people are talking, but not listening, is not really a conversation. It’s selfish, unsatisfying, and does absolutely nothing to build real connections. In fact, it usually leaves us feeling alone and disconnected. And, the only way you can connect is to talk less and to listen more. Today, set your intentions to listen more, to be fully present in your conversations. Today, talk less and listen more. Know that you do not always need to share a story of your own in order to connect.  You don’t need to give everyone the brilliant solution to their problems. In fact, sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to just give people the space they need. And, you do not need to let the world know how together you are by talking, talking, and talking. Today, listen more, listen longer and really connect, be fully present and watch you and your relationships begin to bloom and flourish.

Just for today, I am willing to talk less and listen more. I cannot learn other people’s lessons for them. They must do the work themselves, and they will do it when they are ready. I am willing to begin anew. I am willing to grow and change and I am willing to listen. All is truly well in my world. And so it is.